I had a thought today. I remember the days when blogs used to be internet diaries. Were you could literally read about someone’s thoughts and struggles and things that they’re going through and see how they figure it out and get to the light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak. I definitely want that for this space. I think that it’s important for us to have moments of self reflection where we think about friendships, we think about love and relationships and goals and where we want to be and also reflect on where we are right now: present. It should be organic. It should just flow.
Life is hard. Relationships are hard. Friendships are hard. But the reality is, none of that has to be hard. Life is a path of ups and downs that allows us to experience the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. The beautiful part is that most of it is temporary. We wake up everyday with the choice to, at lease, change our way of thinking.
A friend of mine told me one day that “happiness is temporary but no one can steal your joy.” For some reason, I’ve always remembered that. I literally write the word joy on everything. It’s just a constant reminder of the control that I have over my life and my thoughts.
Now I embrace the days that I feel down because I know they’re temporary. I stew in bed for the day, stay off social media, fall asleep by 8pm or just stay to myself all day. I do what I have to do to allow myself a moment (or a few, tbh) to figure out why I’m in the space that I’m in. However, I always remind myself that it’s temporary. I didn’t used to do that. I reflect on the days when I used to be in a funk for days or even weeks and it was probably one of the most saddest times in my life. Thank God for growth and self reflection.
Over time with self reflection I’ve learned how to move quickly through those spaces. It’s refreshing to know myself that well. I’m extremely proud of myself for how far I’ve come and how I’m learning more about myself everyday.
Never give up on finding your joy. It’s there at the end of the road.